Thoughtful Thursday & Loving Dangerously

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LOVING DANGEROUSLY

Conflict is something that will always be with us.

It is part of the human experience.

The first step to loving dangerously is letting go of the fear of conflict and the fear of the people we are in conflict with.

Conflict can be an opportunity for us to learn, grow, and become the better version of ourselves if we let it.

It really can be the catalyst for change–for becoming our best selves.

Chad Ford asks this question in his book, Dangerous Love,

"What keeps us from mastering the art of conflict transformation?”

His answer: FEAR.

After letting go of the fear of conflict and the fear of the people we are in conflict with, we can choose to love dangerously.

Choosing a love that isn't easy but one that helps us see people as people.

"It is choosing love over fear in the face of conflict."

A few years ago, as I drove home after having a difficult conversation with someone, I remember thinking, “wow, I did it.”

It was a really hard conversation but I learned so much from it because I had chose to love dangerously.

Relief just washed over me for a couple of reasons.

First, I was so grateful for this experience because I proved to myself that I could choose to show up as the person I wanted to be in conflict no matter how the other person showed up.

Second, my ability to show up as my best can really invite change in others.

That isn't why I did it but it created an opportunity for the invitation to change.

We can’t control how others handle conflict but we can change how we do.

By changing ourselves, we actually can change the world one conflict at a time.

To learn more about loving dangerously, I invite you to read Chad Ford's book, Dangerous Love.

Remember, love is a choice.