Episode 114 - Navigating a Funk

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Episode 114 - Navigating a Funk

In this episode of the Seasons of Joy podcast, host Jill Pack, a certified faith-based life coach, delves into the common yet challenging experience of feeling "in a funk." Jill shares her personal insights and three effective strategies to help you navigate through these low moments. She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, the benefits of changing up your routine, and the power of connecting with others. Tune in to learn how to embrace your emotions and create a more joyful life, no matter the season or circumstance.

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This is Jill Pack with the Seasons of Joy podcast. This is episode number 114,

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entitled, Navigating a Funk.

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Are you a woman of faith who is struggling to navigate your current season of life?

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Do you feel like life is just happening to you instead of for you?

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My name is Jill Pack, and I'm a certified faith-based life coach and a member

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of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

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I want you to know that no matter your season or your circumstance,

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it is possible to create a more

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joyful life, and I would love to show you how. Are you ready? Let's go.

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Music.

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Hello, my friends. Welcome to the podcast.

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Today we're going to be talking about something that I think many of us can

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relate to, and that is learning how to navigate a funk.

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But before we get started, I wanted to remind you about my summer special that

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ready to help you reignite your spark and guide you through life's twists and

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turns with confidence and grace.

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With me by your side, you'll learn how to overcome obstacles,

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discover your values and your hidden strengths so that you can grab hold of

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opportunities for growth and joy.

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So if you're interested in turning this summer into an amazing adventure,

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venture, just click the link in the show notes to sign up for my Summer Spark Coaching.

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I also wanted to remind you that I have expanded my coaching practice to include couples coaching.

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If you are a couple that is looking to strengthen your relationship, this is for you.

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While we work together, I will help show you how to create greater connection in your relationship.

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Whether Whether you are engaged, newly married, or seasoned partners,

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you can learn ways to deepen your relationship and your connection.

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If you are interested, you can schedule a free clarity conversation with me

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where we will see if this is a good fit for you.

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You can find the scheduling link in the show notes and on my website,

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www.seasons-coaching.com, and then click on the Work With Me tab at the top

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of the page. Now on to this week's episode.

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Lately, I've noticed myself slipping into a bit of a funk.

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I could not bring myself to do certain things last week, like recording this podcast.

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I've just felt a little blah. And I think that we all feel like this from time to time.

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In the past, this feeling was quite disheartening to me.

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And it made it seem like everything was going wrong and that I was stuck in

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this never-ending cycle of negativity.

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Negativity now I understand that there are

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medical diagnoses like depression that

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require more than just a quick fix and require professional

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medical help but what I want to share with

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you today is for those of us who for the most part have a healthy brain but

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we find ourselves experiencing what I like to call a funk feeling a little off

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and not like ourselves over time I've come to understand that this is actually a common experience.

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It's part of being human. This is a part of the 50-50 principle that I teach.

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And this basically means that sometimes we're going to feel good,

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and sometimes we're going to feel bad.

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But this contrast of life is actually what makes life so amazing.

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It isn't that we love feeling bad, but embracing and not resisting the bad,

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our experience with feeling good is that much greater.

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Feeling bad is what makes feeling good feel so good.

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When we believe that we should be happy all of the time, we will often find

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ourselves resisting the negative emotions that come up for us in our life, right?

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Which actually creates more negative emotions, layering negative emotions on

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top of negative emotions.

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So here's an example. If I feel hurt by something that my spouse says,

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and I'm believing that I shouldn't feel hurt or that I just need to get over it.

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Then that resistance may create feelings of frustration or even anger because

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I want to blame my partner for feeling this way.

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And this then fuels behaviors like using the silent treatment or avoiding them or yelling at them.

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Then after showing up in that way, I may regret how I showed up.

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And I start thinking that I'm a terrible person, which creates feelings of shame.

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So can you see this is negative layering, which comes from resistance.

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So that resistance to feeling hurt created frustration, anger,

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and shame. Here's another example.

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Let's say I'm feeling a little off and I don't do some of the things that I

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wanted to accomplish in a certain day.

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I may I tell myself that I should have done more, and then I feel bad about it.

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And then I may believe that I have totally messed up or failed in some way,

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which causes feelings of discouragement or disappointment.

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Then I may believe that something is just wrong with me as a person,

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and that I will never measure up, which creates feelings of shame.

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In both examples, The layering of negative emotions lead to feelings of shame.

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Isn't that interesting?

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When we resist and when we layer, oftentimes we end up feeling shame.

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I think this happens more often than not when we resist those negative emotions in the first place.

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I have observed this in my clients, right, that when they resist negative emotions

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over time, this leads to feelings of shame.

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This layering of emotions moves us out of balance and into something like a

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70-30 or an 80-20 experience,

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feeling more negative emotion than positive emotion.

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Understanding the 50-50 principle can help us stop the resistance of the negative

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emotions so that we can reduce the negative layering.

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The better we get at embracing the uncomfortable emotions that come up for us,

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we naturally create more space for positive emotions because we aren't layering

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with more negative emotions.

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I think it's important to understand this 50-50 principle, especially when we

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notice ourselves slipping into a funk.

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So today, I want to share with you three strategies that have helped me navigate

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and move through those moments that I find myself slipping into a funk.

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First and foremost, I take a moment to acknowledge my feelings without judgment. management.

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Recognizing that it's okay to feel this way and that it doesn't define who I

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am or my capabilities is crucial.

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This act of self-acceptance and self-compassion allows me to reduce the pressure

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I feel or the negative emotional layering.

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This makes it easier to take the next step forward when we can let go of the

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resistance and have some self-compassion.

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Simply giving myself permission to feel down helps me see it as just a moment

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in time, because that's really all it is, a moment in time, and it will pass.

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So this last week, I could see that I wasn't going to do some of the things

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I usually do, like this podcast recording.

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I just acknowledged how I was feeling, and I gave myself permission to skip

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recording that week. I didn't beat myself up about it.

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I didn't make it mean anything about my abilities to do podcast.

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It didn't make it mean that I was failing in business or that I was a terrible coach.

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I just told myself that it was okay and I'd pick up where I was next week, right?

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So that permission just lightens and allows space for the things that we're feeling.

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The second thing I do is I I shake up my routine.

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Sometimes breaking the mundane, the monotony, or the stress of daily life can make a huge difference.

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This could involve trying something new, like, or taking a walk in a different

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location, or even rearranging a living space.

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Physical activity in particular is beneficial for me.

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Moving my body even a little boosts my mood, thanks to the endorphins released.

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Changing my environment, like moving from my desk to the back deck,

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can also help shift my state of mind.

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So this week, I've been working on beautifying my back deck.

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I've added flowers and some new rugs, and I actually wrote this podcast from my deck.

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I love it there. It brings me so much joy and peace when I sit outside.

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So that is where I was working last week.

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Lastly, I tap into the power of connection.

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Engaging with family or friends, even when I don't feel like it,

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can significantly lift my spirits.

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Planning activities like a hike or a bike ride with a friend or a loved one

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creates a sense of accountability and motivates me to join in.

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This is one area that I actually do pretty well at.

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I know that when I take the time to connect with others, I just feel better.

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It helps me step outside of myself and what's going wrong in my life,

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right, by connecting and focusing on others.

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And usually, I realize that we all are struggling with something, right?

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When we spend time with other people, we realize we aren't alone.

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We all struggle. And how awesome is it that we can support each other in our challenges?

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These moments of connection ground me.

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So those are my three simple strategies that I hope can help you navigate your funk.

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First, acknowledge how you feel without judgment.

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Second, shake up your routine. And three, tap into the power of connection.

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These three simple but powerful strategies can make a big impact on your ability to navigate a funk.

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Give them a try and let me know what you think. Thank you for tuning in to the Seasons of Joy podcast.

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I hope you enjoyed today's episode. And if you like what you heard,

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don't forget to subscribe, leave a review and share with your friends and family.

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If you want to learn more about me or how to work with me, just visit my website,

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www.seasons-coaching.com and have a joyful week.