Episode 140 - Building Longer Tables with Ian Simkins
A Conversation on Inclusive Faith and Community
In a world increasingly divided by digital walls and echo chambers, the concept of "building longer tables" offers a refreshing perspective on creating genuine connections and fostering inclusive communities. In this enlightening conversation with Pastor Ian Simkins of The Bridge Church near Nashville, we explore the profound significance of tables as spaces for transformation, healing, and authentic relationship-building.
The Journey to Ministry: Finding Purpose Through Unexpected Paths
Ian's path to ministry wasn't straightforward. Growing up in Detroit with "Jesus hippie" parents, he initially dreamed of moving to the coast to surf and play music. However, a pivotal moment at age 16, when his pastor asked him to deliver a sermon, set him on an unexpected trajectory. Despite the initial sermon being "terrible" by his own admission, an older woman's prophetic words about his voice became the catalyst for his future calling.
The Power of Tables in Building Community
What Makes Tables Sacred Spaces?
The concept of tables extends far beyond physical dining spaces. As Ian explains, "Jesus seems to be pretty preoccupied with this idea of loving your neighbor. And most of us don't even know our neighbor." In an era where people are building taller privacy fences and living increasingly isolated lives, tables represent opportunities for genuine connection.
Three Essential Elements of Table Ministry
Ian breaks down the ministry of tables into three key components:
Presence: Creating space for genuine connection and being fully present
Formation: Allowing transformation to occur through meaningful interactions
Mission: Actively reaching out and including others in our communities
Moving Beyond Token Inclusion
One of the most powerful insights from our conversation centered on the progression of true inclusion:
Diversity = A seat at the table
Inclusion = A voice at the table
Dignity = Being heard at the table
Belonging = Helping pick the menu
"People know when they're just a project," Ian notes, emphasizing that true inclusion requires more than simply checking boxes or fulfilling obligations.
Practical Steps for Building Longer Tables
1. Practice Intentional Presence
Ian shares a personal practice: turning off his phone completely when he returns home until his children go to bed. This simple act creates space for genuine connection and demonstrates the value of being fully present.
2. Embrace Curiosity
Rather than approaching differences with fear or judgment, cultivating curiosity opens doors for authentic relationships. As Ian puts it, "Curiosity equals gold."
3. Recognize Divine Image in Others
A fundamental principle in building longer tables is acknowledging that everyone is made in God's image. This recognition transforms how we interact with others, especially those who differ from us.
The Challenge of Transformation
Building longer tables isn't always comfortable. It requires:
Willingness to be transformed ourselves
Patience with the process
Humility to learn from others
Grace for ourselves and others as we grow
Key Takeaways for Building Longer Tables
Start with small, intentional practices
View every interaction as an opportunity for connection
Prioritize authentic relationships over quick results
Remember that transformation is a slow, ongoing process
Create spaces where everyone feels not just included, but valued
Conclusion
Building longer tables is about more than hospitality—it's about creating spaces where genuine transformation can occur. As we navigate an increasingly divided world, the practice of building longer tables offers hope for healing rifts and fostering authentic community.
In Ian's words, "We're not just here to impart—we're here to be transformed." This journey of building longer tables invites us all to participate in creating more inclusive, understanding, and connected communities.
Want to learn more about building longer tables in your community? Follow Pastor Ian Simkins on Instagram @iansimkins for daily inspiration and insights on creating inclusive spaces for meaningful connections.
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About the Author: Jill Pack is a certified faith-based life coach and member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Through her podcast "Seasons of Joy" and coaching practice, she helps women navigate life's various seasons with purpose and joy.
