Thoughtful Thursday & PSA - Nothing is Wrong with You

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PSA - NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU

So many women I know are struggling with the relationship they have with themselves.

No matter what season of life they are in, they have lost touch with who they are and what they really want in life.

They may look at their marriage and think they are a failure as a spouse.

Or, if they are divorced or single, they may think they did life wrong.

Or, they look at how they have parented their children and they may think they fell short as a parent.

Or, if they don't have children of their own, they may think they are broken in some way.

Or, they look at their spiritual practices and they may think they aren't doing enough.

Or, they are looking at how they spend their money or how they use their time and may believe they are wasting it.

They look at the size of their clothes or the number on the scale and may believe that if they were different physically, then they would be happier or better in some way.

Mother's Day is just around the corner, and I have heard from many women that they hate Mother's Day because of reasons like I just mentioned.

As women, it is so easy to be hard on ourselves.

We have many bars by which we measure ourselves, and when we don't measure up, we usually end up beating ourselves up with the stick.

If this sounds like you, I want you to listen really carefully.

Here is the truth.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!

YOU ARE NOT A PROBLEM TO BE FIXED.

YOU ARE NOT FLAWED OR BROKEN.

YOU ARE A SPIRITUAL BEING HAVING A HUMAN EXPERIENCE.

Life is messy and hard.

The purpose of this life isn't perfection.

If we believe it is, we will always be disappointed and disconnected from ourselves and others.

This life is about learning and growing into the person you were divinely created to be.

We may not be perfect, but we are perfectly loved.

So, this is the question I have for you today.

What would your life be like if you could really believe that nothing is wrong with you?

What would you do differently?

What would you start doing?

What would you stop doing?

Many people believe that if they cut themselves some slack, then they will just spiral out of control and never improve or get better.

Believing that if they aren't hard on themselves, they won't accomplish anything.

Believing that the only point of goals is to push themselves to reach them and earn their worth.

Now, I am not suggesting you don't work towards goals, but what if it really isn't necessarily about reaching them.

I may get pushback on this, but hear me out.

Goals are awesome.

I set goals for myself all the time.

But, if we believe that finishing the goal is what will make our life better or we will be happier, we are missing the point.

The journey.

The process.

The classroom.

The experience.

It is what we make of all of it—how we are living while we are reaching for our goals.

If we believe that our marital status, the number of children we have, the choices of our children, changing our past, or the amount of money we have will make us better or happier, we are missing out on living.

We are looking outside of ourselves for proof of whether or not we are doing life right or if we measure up.

As long as we do that, we will never find it.

As I have worked on strengthening the relationship that I have with myself, I have practiced remembering that I am a divine daughter of Heavenly Parents who love me.

Because of that, I have value and worth.

I didn't have to do anything to earn it, and neither do you.

Understanding and remembering this allows us to work on the person we want to be not from a place of shame but a place of dignity.

I believe that for many women, it is so hard for them to love themselves.

It feels scary to love themselves where they are and as they are because they are afraid that they would be giving up on improvement and growth.

But I am here to tell you that the opposite is true.

Belittling ourselves or beating ourselves up because we haven't achieved this or accomplished that will never help us get there.

All this does is push us down smaller and smaller and keeps us from sharing our light with the world.

It keeps us from connecting and enjoying our relationships.

Once I started loving and valuing myself, I actually show up differently in the relationships in my life.

I can be myself.

I am less likely to compare myself or judge others.

It can be viewed as selfish to focus on ourselves.

But what I have found is that building my relationship with myself helps me to get out of the way of myself.

When I am focused on everything that is wrong with me, I do become the focus, and it is harder for me to see the good or serve others.

I recently recorded a podcast about our context filters or the lens through which we view life.

This includes the way we view ourselves.

Many of us have viewed ourselves in a certain way for so long it is hard to imagine anything different.

Those negative thoughts and opinions have become patterned, and they just seem true.

However, I am here to give you permission, if you are looking for that, to believe in yourself.

Again, what would your life be like if you could really believe that there is nothing wrong with you?

What is one thing that you can celebrate about yourself this weekend?

Here's to YOU!

Click HERE to listen to this week's podcast episode to learn more!